I've always liked Pollitt's columns. But while of course one should not boss one's spouse without his or her consent, what exactly is inherently wrong with saying "because I said so" to children? Aside from those times when a child's question deserves no answer at all, as in: "Why can't I hit people when I'm in a bad mood?"
It's high time women stopped implying that children should have the same rights as adults—or that infancy lasts longer than it really does. As Dr. John Rosemond often says: "The modern woman wouldn't dream of making her husband a sandwich on command, but she'll jump up and draw a glass of water for an able-bodied 4-year-old."
So, he went on to say in effect, until women learn to put their adult lives first and demand a lot from kids instead of the other way around, women will never shake their reputation as a species that likes being enslaved, one way or another. Even a housewife, he pointed out, can and should put her adult life first if she doesn't want a divorce eventually—or a tyrannical child.
If we can admit that one can't have rights without responsibilities, it's easy to see that lumping women and children together, most of the time, is a disservice to both their rights and responsibilities.
Jul 8 2010 - 5:21pm